Small talk feels pointless until you realise it's how people decide they like and trust each other.
Direct answer
To make small talk, open with something you share (the place, event or day), ask an open question, really listen, follow up on what they say and offer a little about yourself. Keep it light, be curious, and end warmly. It's a skill you can practise.
The FORD idea
Easy topics: Family (careful), Occupation, Recreation, Dreams. Choose what fits the person and setting.
Step by step
- Open: "How do you know the host?" or "Did you have a good weekend?"
- Ask an open question: one that needs more than yes or no.
- Listen: pick up a detail.
- Follow up: "You mentioned running. What got you into it?"
- Share: a little of yourself, then ask back.
- Close: "I'm going to say hi to Sam. Great to meet you."
At work
- Ask about the project, the weekend or a recent event.
- Remember small details and mention them later.
- Keep it positive.
At events
- Arrive early when it's less crowded.
- Stand near food or drinks, where people chat.
- Join pairs and small groups with a smile.
With strangers
Comment on the shared setting. Keep it light and friendly, and respect it if they don't want to chat.
What to avoid
- Interrogating with questions
- Complaining
- Controversial topics early on
- Only talking about yourself
See small talk topics for ideas.
Where Teyro fits
Teyro's The Art of Small Talk course helps you start a conversation with anyone, keep it going with the right questions, handle small talk at work and at events, and turn it into real connection. It has 50 short lessons and is free to start.
The bottom line
Be curious, listen and keep it light.
