Connection starts with "me too".
Direct answer
To find common ground, ask open questions, listen for clues, such as hobbies, places or experiences, and respond with a related detail of your own. Shared situations, like the event or workplace, are an easy starting point.
Steps
- Ask what they do or enjoy.
- Notice anything you relate to.
- Share a short, related detail.
- Ask a follow-up.
- If nothing matches, show curiosity.
Examples
- "You mentioned running. I am training for a 10k. How did you start?"
- "We both moved here for work. What has surprised you most?"
Where Teyro fits
Teyro's The Art of Small Talk course turns this into short lessons you can play in a few minutes a day. It has 50 lessons, and you can start free.
The bottom line
Be curious, and common ground often appears.
